Ep22: Master Your Manifestation Part 4 – The Strategy to Achieve Your Goals Without Burnout

ASM Ep 22: Master Your Manifestation Part 4: The Strategy to Achieve Your Goals Without Burnout

 Okay today, let’s talk about. The number one element.  Strategy. , concept whatever you want to call it so that you can achieve your goals without wearing yourself out. , been talking a lot about goals, always talking about goals, because I truly believe that. When you are fulfilling your goals, your soul goals, the ones that are deep, the ones that call to you, the ones that are coming from an inner place, you will. Manifest the life that you want. You will create your best life. 

You will experience the type of life.  That’s so good. You probably have never even been able to really dream of it. Right. so this is part four. This is the last of my series on mastering your manifestation process. So if you’re just now tuning is your first episode, you’ve listened to, , I highly recommend. Either listening to this one. 

If, if this title brought you in and you’re like, Ooh, I want to know about that. Listen to this one. Then go back and listen to. Parts one through three of this series. And if you have been following along, welcome, welcome back. So glad to have you here. Okay. this one. Strategy. By far has. Allowed me. To go after my goals to be involved in the active. 

Embodiment in the active, , sort of like action taking process, part of manifesting, fulfilling your goals. 

So this one element has allowed me to. Go through the process of the actions needed. keeping the mindset where it needs to be, meaning having my thoughts and my feelings working. In alignment, working in the highest good. , so that my actions reflect that. 

Right. And every action I take helps me get closer to the goal.  

And do it without being stressed.  I’m gonna say, I don’t know if you have, because I don’t know all of you personally, but I would. Be really confident in saying that I think most of us have had experiences when we are. In the process of fulfilling our goals. So we can do it in a way sometimes that even if we get the result we want man, the journey to get there is like, yeah, I’m good. Right. 

You’re like, . That was interesting, right. , I don’t want it to be. Air quotes, hard air quotes. Interesting. I want it to be like, Ooh.  That was good. Right. We want the journey, the, the experience of fulfilling, the goal is to be like, oh, okay. Yeah, I’ll take more of that, please. And, the one strategy that’s helped me do that is. A couple of things. 

Well, it’s, it’s one strategy, but I think it’s sort of like, 

  One strategy and like strategy one and then 0.1 0.0, so let’s get into it. 

Number one. Plan your plans or in another way, like, 

Plan the process. You know what I’m saying? Like plan the process when you. Identify the goals. Right. And we’ve talked about this through. , parts one through three of this series. When you become aware of your goals, either it’s a calling or you become aware of it through,  Just gaining clarity and then identifying your goals. And then figuring out or becoming aware too, like, oh, there’s multiple ways to, , achieve goals. 

Right. So, , in  part two of this series I talked about. Finding your unique manifestation. Process right. And of course, this is one, of course I’m saying manifestation. So I’m sure a lot of you have sort of gleamed from that, that I’m talking about it being in a non sort of like. I guess more of the scientific approach. 

So things like. Smart goals and smarter goals, right? 

There’s other ways too. 

Fulfill your goals. 

And there’s different ways of sort of creating the process in which you’re going to do that. Because for a lot of people, 

Things like the smart goals are not really effective. Or even what they call the smarter goals. Right. . So if you’ve never heard of smart goals, , smart is the acronym for your goal should be specific. Measurable achievable, relevant and time bound and the reason. , and there’s been a lot of, sort of like studies and deep dives into why the smart. , goals, aren’t really, , efficient for some people. Even the, smarter as they call them the smarter goals, which is specific, measurable, achievable, relevant time bound. Evaluate and reward. 

A lot of this has not been successful for folks who are trying to achieve their goals. , , and through their own process, because with both  The smart goals and the smarter goals. There are a couple of pieces in here that are difficult. For folks to move past and it’s difficult sometimes because it creates . And opportunity. , for us to judge ourselves, shame ourselves. 

, and those emotions, those feelings obviously do not promote the most positive. action taking, right. So what are those couple of pieces? So with the. Measurable goals. Okay. With a measurable part of the smart goal. The M , standing for measurable. Means that, You want to know? It’s sort of like setting like many milestones, if you will. , In between it’s like, how do you evaluate whether your, ,  goal was achieved or not? 

So what happens is when people create these smart goals. And it’s saying to you, you need to have something where you can evaluate whether you achieve the goal or not. For some folks, myself included. If you don’t hit that ultimate goal, then people sometimes. Interpret that as that they failed. Okay. And when folks feel like they failed at something, and if you feel like you failed at something right. If you think you failed. Then you have feelings around failure, right? And if I asked you right now, just to think like, How do you think you would feel. Or  how have you felt? 

Cause we’ve all failed at something. Before. So when you have failed at a thing, how did you feel?

 Depending on where you are and sort of like your self awareness or mindfulness journey. , you know, there’s a lot of feelings that could come up and for a good amount of folks. Those feelings are not necessarily conducive to continuing to take action. Right? So there’s feelings like the shame there’s feelings like, Judgment, , there’s feelings of inadequacy. 

Sometimes that can come up now. The feeling isn’t necessarily, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a fact or remain a fact for you. , but I am very big on like, let’s acknowledge the feeling, let’s identify it so that we can then, , take appropriate action. And so that measurable part in the smart or smarter goals, acronym really can be detrimental, , for a lot of people. 

Okay. And that’s why it doesn’t really work because it’s like, well, I didn’t achieve the ultimate goal. So I have failed and really. Really. There’s so many. Sort of like, Bridge goals. And I’m going to actually do an episode on that. 

Fair like the little milestones, you know, I believe that goals are milestones to manifesting the life that you want, the best life you can possibly have in your experience, in this lifetime, But within those. Milestones there there are smaller. Milestones or smaller goals that you achieved? That a lot of times we do not. I give a lot of attention to, right. 

And it’s like, so. If your goal is to. 

Write a book. And like, that’s the ultimate goal. If you and you, and you say, okay and measurable, right. , or time-based right. So that’s the other thing. The T in the smartest, the time-based is like giving yourself a specific timeframe. So if you say  the goal is to write a book and I want to do it in six months. 

And you didn’t complete, you didn’t complete the book from start to finish. 

It’s ready to go out to editors or publishers by the six month. Mark then you felt like, oh, I didn’t hit the goal. So the goal is not achieved. But what if. You didn’t necessarily complete it, but you get six chapters done, right? So you got six chapters done. That is a smaller sort of like milestone. 

Those are like the smaller goals that is a bridge goal to the ultimate larger goal that you did hit.  And so it’s important to embrace that and celebrate that. And a lot of times for some. The mind, doesn’t let you do that with these smart slash smarter goals. And then that time-based part again. I want to write the book. , complete it and you want to do it in six months. 

Okay. Well, what if in that time period, , a child was born or you had to move, homes or locations, or, you know, you got. The flu, like there’s so many things that you cannot control that can happen in a certain time span. And again, if you did not complete it within that time that you set forth, a lot of folks then use that as a reason to shame themselves and forget that. 

Okay. We didn’t do it in six months, but in the six months, like, look at all what you did do, , so that’s what I mean when I say plan out. How you’re planning out your plan. Right. This is why in, in, , part two. I shared how you can find other alternatives. So if you’re one of those people where you’re like, yeah, smart goals don’t really work for me. 

I’ve tried that it doesn’t work. That’s why episode. 20, which is part two of the series was just really, really instrumental. It gives you another option for the process in which you will work towards fulfilling your goals. Okay. So that’s what I mean by that. , another reason and I’m pulling  this info, when I say there’s been a lot of like research and commentary done on smart goals. 

I mean, it’s, I’m pulling from, , Forbes. I’m pulling from business insider. , right now I’m looking at my computer screen. So this is not just, I decided smart goals. Don’t work. I.  Have worked with clients and we do the smart goal method because that really does work for them. It is very helpful for them. They have a level of self-compassion and, , 

Healthy self-talk. 

That. They understand how to nuance these, the acronym. Right. And they’re not holding it to the letter. But a lot of folks are not like that or their brains simply don’t work that way. And so, you know, there’s other alternatives. , also in the smart goal is the a four attainable. This is another area where, , a lot of research has been done in why smart goals don’t work. Is the a is attainable. 

So it’s like telling you to create a goal that is realistic. Right. Create a goal that’s realistic. I used to be in that camp where I was like, no, I’m only going to create goals. Like I don’t want to get ahead of myself, you know? Cause I don’t want to disappoint myself. So let’s. What’s a goal that’s attainable. Here’s where the problem lies with that. 

Folks when you  create goals, when you identify your goal. When you identify like the, the best life you can even imagine for yourself. I’m telling you right now, you gotta be pretty damn delusional. You gotta go with the delusional. Version. of is the goal. You got to get comfortable with going with the delusional version of your best life, because here’s the thing. 

If you simply focus on what you currently your brain in its current state, based on its. Past experiences can imagine for itself, if you can only .  Identify goals from that place. You’re going to be very limited. You are automatically limiting yourself when you start from that place. Okay,  because our brains can literally only truly. Confidently think up and I’m going to get them talking from the talking about the brain. 

The brain can only confidently come up with scenarios. 

Based on what it has previously done or experienced. Right? This is why when you are. Working towards a goal that you’ve never done before. This is why your nervous system  has a hard time. , regulating, this is why we feel, you know, the stress. This is why we kind of can worry. At the beginning of this is why we feel nervousness, right? 

Because the brain is like,  I don’t know what to do with this . What I don’t know. Right. Where, if you. Allow yourself. Not in your brain. Not in your logical thinking part of your brain, but if you just allow yourself to imagine. Now you’re giving the brain permission to go beyond logic. If you dream, right? 

This is why we have dreams. Dreams are our subconscious happening, sort of like. The subconscious starts to come into play. Right? Because the conscious brain is like, we never did that says, sorry, I don’t know what you’re talking about, but the unconscious right. And the inner you. Your divine self, right. 

Is saying like, oh, we can do this. And we can do that. Oh girl. All of these things. Right. So attainable goals. 

Really are a limitation in itself. And I’m not saying that we need to just, , throw  logic and thought process out of the window. I’m saying that when you identify the goal, let the goal be delusional, let the dream be out of this world. 

. And then. Once we solidify that, then we can let the logical brain, the thinking brain, the strategizing brain come in and help us figure out how we could possibly get there. . And if your brain doesn’t even let you go there, this is why you hire someone like me, because I telling you what one of the most interesting things about. When I hop on calls. With people and they’re like, you know, I’m just generally, like, not really thrilled with my life. 

I know that there’s more, but I don’t know what. , I challenged that, right? Cause I’m the, I’m the Y code. Well, why, why do you think that, you know,, I challenge it. And they’ll say like, no, I don’t really, I don’t know what I want. And I go. 

I think you do. Why do you, why do you think you don’t know. . And there’s so much that comes up just in asking that question or they’ll come and they say, Hey.  I ultimately want X, Y, Z. , this is what I’m trying to do.  But I don’t really know how to get there and I go, okay. That’s cool. 

Well, Like, what is the ultimate  version? Like what, like, what is it that you really want? Right. Like if you, whatever that thing is that, , that category that. Experience, right. Like say someone says, I want to, I want to travel more than I go. Oh, well, where do you really want to go? Like where, like where would your dream vacation be? 

Or your dream travel destination? Be. And I’ve had people say things like. Well, I mean, 

 What. I think I can go. I mean, that’s really different. I mean, I probably want to start by. And I’m like, 

Sir, Madam. I didn’t ask you. What you think you can get where you think you can go. I asked you. Where would your dream travel destination be. It’s always so interesting to me. , and even when I look at myself, experiences that I have had. The difference between. What I want and what I think I can have. 

Right. And so this is where the a and the smart goals the attainable becomes. A challenge because what we. Think we can have and what we ultimately want for a lot of us, it is a really big difference and we have just not learned how to. Be comfortable with. Having a desire. Having a goal, wanting a life. Living a life being in a relationship that is beyond. What we can see for ourselves based on.  Social conditioning.  Past experiences. Et cetera. Right. 

It’s so different. So, , plan your plans plan out, right. Plan out like, this is how I, , I’m planning on going about the process of my goals. And this feels good to me. , smart goals feels good to me, , leaning into the human design tool. 

 Speaks to me. You know, vision boarding speaks to me. That feels really good to me. It feels organic to me. It’s all good. There is no one way you all there is. Just your way. It’s just your way. Okay. 

So the other. Element or strategy. , to achieving your goals without wearing yourself out. Is to make sure that you’re integrating. 

The daily. Experiences that, that you are aware of that are sort of routine for you. Make sure that you are creating. Your plan of action and fulfilling your goals with this . Day-to-day life with this daily. , experience of your specific life, right? One of the biggest reasons that people get challenged or give up on their goals is because they have the goal. They created a plan. , but they didn’t plan it based on their life. 

They just sort of set the plan because it, this sounds good. , but they did not integrate the plan with their lifestyle, , their responsibilities, their finances, all of that. And this is where I get a little bit more like brainy and using the brain and using logic and using. Numbers and all of that, we need to get a little bit more like strategic in, , At a more like mental. Capacity. Is. You need both, right? 

Well, you can’t just. And I said this in part one of the series. Like you just don’t get to be like, oh, I want to, my goal is X, Y, Z. And now I’m just going to sit here and meditate my way to it. No, no, I’m sorry. There is some work there. , there’s going to be some effort here. There’s going to be some action and. 

This is the action. 

This is part of the action is making sure that the, the way your. We’re going about this. fits as well, plays as nice as it possibly can with what has happening in your day-to-day life, because it is very exhausting. , trying to. 

Do things. That contradict.  The overall structure of your life or your day. So I’ll give you an example. When I was, , homeschooling and we homeschooled our son for the first four from grades one through four. , and I was still here. Working from home, running a business. Even prior to the, you know, COVID and all of that. 

It was pointless for me too. Create.  A plan for my business and goals for my business. That revolved around me doing things. First thing in the morning, right. If I had tasks to do for my business, first thing in the morning. I was setting myself up for disaster. Why? Because especially when our son was really younger, it was like, you know, mornings are busy, especially when you have children. 

, When you have young children, it’s really focused on like making sure that they’re getting what they need. Their day’s getting set up the same as, you know, your. Helping them and assisting them in getting their day set up. There’s breakfast.  There’s all of these things. 

There is no. Magic bullet into like, oh, well, everything’s going to go just as planned. Right. That doesn’t happen. And so if I had created. Tasks for myself. That would help me, you know, tasks related to fulfilling my goals that require me to do work first thing in the morning. Yeah. Setting myself up for frustration. 

How do I know? Because  I was there once. Right? I did it. So I know that that creates an, a ton of a frustration, for you personally. And then when you’re frustrated, then that has a ripple effect. , to those around you. And so what I learned  and transitioned to very quickly was okay. That is absolutely the wrong time of the day. For me to try to take action on these things, I’m going to have a better time. 

I’m going to feel better and we’re going to just have a more cohesive. lifestyle. If I work on my business between.  12 and three. , or 1230 and three o’clock right. That’s when I’m going to have the, the energy, we’re going to have a little more calm in this house. Homeschool is done and I can truly focus for these three hours on the tasks at hand. 

Right. And so whether it for you it’s. Navigating how you work from home or making sure that you are integrating enough physical activity into your day, because maybe that’s how you release a lot of mental and emotional, , stress or challenges. You’ve got to make sure that. The plan. For achieving your goals for fulfilling your goals.  Has all aspects of who you are and the life that you live intertwined with it. . When I do, when I work with my clients, this is what we do. This is like the like, calls one and two. The first, like first and second calls, this is what we’re doing. So when I say I have my clients.  Set plan and fulfill their goals. This is what we are planning. 

This is the planning part. We’re not just planning the goal. We’re not just planning the. Logistical steps, , that need to happen with the goal, or we’re not just planning The mind fullness. Activities. , that you’ll need to do the, you know, the self-coaching the, you know, that part of. Fulfilling the goals. 

We’re also planning. How do you, how do you bring your whole self and your whole current circumstances into play? So that you have the best chance possible in fulfilling your goal. Right? I want to set you up for success. I want my clients to not get in the middle of the plan and be like, this is not working. 

I can’t do it. You know? , it’s just too hard. We want this to be really simple. As possible. And so in the planning process, with my clients, this is what we’re doing, planning. Like a whole. Not just, , a plan for hitting the goals, but it’s all, it’s an entire. Wellbeing plan, right?  So at the end of the process, when you fulfill the goal, You’re still a whole person or   you have become made whole through the process of fulfilling the goal. Versus you have been broken down. , and now you’ve got to recover. Right. 

You should not have to recover from achieving, , your most important, most heart centered. Goals. 

Let me know. If you all felt this, if you resonated with this, if you’re like, oh my God. You know what. That’s what’s been missing. Let me know. , send me a screenshot, drop a voice message. I’ll put that in the show notes where you can drop a voice note. You can also always screenshot and tag me or DM me on Instagram or Facebook at Sonja Thompkins. 

I would love to know. How you connected with this episode? You guys, this is it for this special sort of series. I hope you’ve enjoyed the entire series on learning how to master your manifestation process. , let me know if I should do more series like this in the future or what your thoughts are.  Thanks for listening and we’ll talk next time.